What is self-love, and why is it so important?

The word self-love is highly used by everyone nowadays, And have you ever thought about what exactly it is? In simple words “Self-love means that you accept yourself fully, treat yourself with kindness and respect, nurture your growth and wellbeing, and love yourself for who you are.”

Self-love can mean different for each person because we all have many opinion about this and have different ways to take care of ourselves.

Self-love is not selfish, its about being aware that loving oneself is also about loving others. When you practice Self-love, you become more confident and accepting yourself. When you achieve that feeling you are able to go into relationships with a strong sense of self. The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others.

Many people think of Self-love as a day at the spa or a bubble bath. But Self-love means so much more than that, your happiness is dependent on how you take care of yourself and Self-love has been linked to increased resilience and capacity to see things from a new perspective.

And yes, Self-love is not that easy to begin with. Loving yourself truly comes with facing what you may hate about yourself. Maybe its a body part or multiple body parts, or the way you treated someone or guilt or shame about a situation. The thing is until you can really shine a light on your insecurities, you will never be truly accepting of yourself.

You don’t have to be a narcissist to love yourself. You only have to accept the real you. And it is easy to do if you follow these steps:

1. Accept the flaws

First, realize that as a human beings, we have both strengths and weaknesses. We all do mistakes and all have our own flaws.

2. Let go of perfectionism

Its good to have high standards, but if those standards only make you feel crushed and defeated, its time to give yourself a break.

3. Treat yourself

You are never too old to laugh and play. Make sure you treat yourself regularly, its maybe spending some alone time, taking yourself on a date or even a piece of chocolate or ice cream. Its an act of Self-love with benefits for your soul, body and mind.

4. Make peace with your past

To let go of the baggage — past and future — is a powerful act of Self-love. Forgive those who have hurt you, forgive yourself for any mistakes, and allow yourself a clean state for the present.

5. Practice Kindness

Be kind to yourself, a moment of self-compassion can change your entire day.

6. Banish the negative self-talk

Be mindful of your self-talk. Train yourself to see good in everything. Instead of a negative self-talk use a phrase like ” I am delighted that I am full of confidence and boundless courage.”

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